What can we learn from betrayal, especially from an enlightened friend? I once heard the wonderful Iyanla Van Zant say, paraphrasing here, that spiritual people are the first to turn downright nasty to other spiritual people.
If you are reacting with “Oh, yeah,” then I empathize with you! It is rare thankfully. But some of my most powerful learning experiences came from “colleagues” who deliberately excluded me, or gossiped about me, or set me up to be ripped off. And I am doing just fine, thank you. But it hurt.
How does this happen? They say they have “no ego” but the opposite is true in these cases. These people crave becoming famous, or overwhelmingly desire befriending someone famous, and they will throw you under the bus to help make it happen.
And sometimes, it doesn’t even work out how they planned. They don’t really get to meet the celebrity or become famous themselves. Ha!
My wish for you? Know that GREATER friends and GREATER happenings are just around the corner WHEN you get through it. And here is how I got through it:
- Stop the “I should have said this or done that” from playing in your head like a torturous mantra. Take 3 deep breaths and pet a dog or cat or go for a walk.
- Do nothing TO them, WITH them, or FOR them. The lesson is over now. No need to engage again.
- Betrayal is their story not yours.
- Realize maybe you were not meant to see it coming so you could grow stronger in the aftermath.
- Rest assured; one day you will meet up on the Other Side. YOU will be proud of how you handled yourself. I am proud of you too!
Susanne Wilson The Carefree Medium is a scientifically-validated medium, author, and intuition teacher based in Carefree, Arizona.