Life without Unnecessary Drama: You Can Do It

The beginning of a new year is a good time to let go of the people and situations that no longer serve you. And if you can’t let go completely, there is a way to have your inner peace.


Often, the people and situations that antagonize us might also give us opportunities to learn and grow. But — and it’s a big “but” — some people are wolves in sheeps’ clothing! They are borderline personalities or other bad actors who thrive on chaos and want all the attention focused towards them and their drama trauma (may God bless them).


Right now, you might be thinking, “Isn’t it un-spiritual to label (in your mind) another person as a drama queen or king?” Here’s my answer: No! It is not un-spiritual to admit to yourself that the person driving you nuts is unwell and decide to take better care of yourself! Recognizing your truth and healing yourself is the very essence of spiritual work. Friend, hear me when I say that being spiritual doesn’t mean you must be a doormat. Life on Earth is tough enough already!

For most people, our brains are hard wired for inner peace. But “crazy making” people can affect the wiring. Our reactions to them, over and over, can change our brain wiring from peaceful to chronically anxious. But this is a temporary problem. Nothing is permanent. You cannot fix them but you can fix YOU!


Observe your emotions. What person or situation continually brings you down? You can stop drama queens and kings from robbing you of your inner peace. Life without unnecessary drama is possible! You must love yourself enough to let go, as much as you can physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Decide that you will compassionately detach from the outcome of their words and behavior. Be conscious of your emotional and bodily reactions to chaos makers and keep yourself in check. This requires some work on your part. But the pay off for your efforts will be freedom!

When your emotions or body begins to register anxiety, take a walk outdoors if possible. Find a quiet place even if it’s in your car. I can’t count how many times I have done readings for people whose only privacy was found by sitting in their cars.

Take three deep breaths and then use this mantra or something similar: I am peace. I am love. I am protected. Now you are more centered.

Next cord cutting may be needed. And you don’t need to make an appointment with an energy healer. You can do this yourself! First, please understand what I mean by the word “cord.” Every time you react to a chaos maker, you send him or her a part of your energy. Over time, that energy forms into a cord connecting both of you together.

An energy cord can often be seen by clairvoyants and sensed by clairsentients (and I am both). It looks like a beam of light in your aura but not a pleasant light. Its presence means that the perpetrator is draining your energy. They are not necessarily trying to drain you; they are just being their twisted selves. And if the situation has been going on for some time, you can safely assume that a cord cutting is a good idea!


To cut the cord, visualize or imagine your guardian angel or if you prefer, Archangel Michael, coming to you holding a sword and shield. Ask this wonderful, powerful angel to first cut the cord from you, and then cut the cord from them. Next, ask for the cord to be burned in violet flame. Don’t worry; your angel will shield you from the flame. In your mind’s eye, visualize the cord burning down into simple ashes that fall  to Mother Earth, or Gaia. Once the ashes fall to Gaia, she will neutralize them and recycle the energy, so that it becomes positive white light absorbed back into the universe.

Susanne Wilson The Carefree Medium is a scientifically authenticated medium, author, and spiritual teacher based in Carefree, Arizona.

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6 thoughts on “Life without Unnecessary Drama: You Can Do It”

  1. Talk about synchronicity–lately I’ve been feeling bad about being unable to consistently model the unconditional love that every single spiritual teacher insists is our main lesson here on Earth. I do it with friends and with well-intentioned acquaintances, but not with my husband. I’ve been told that he has a serious personality disorder: narcissism with BPD (can you say DRAMA?!) traits. We’ve been married for almost 34 years and he’s gotten worse, not better, over the past year or so. I really, really needed to read this wise advice, because I was feeling like a failure when I just couldn’t relate to all the “always love” teachings. It’s dangerous to uncritically love a personality-disordered person and it can potentially open up a person to worsening abuse. Thank you so much for saying this, because no one else seems to be addressing the problem and at the holidays it’s especially shaming to try and fail to “be love” with a person who is in some ways a predator.

  2. Love this. And love the practical tools, and the simple cord cutting visual. What a great way to begin the New Year. Remembering to take care of you! Well .. ME! 🙂 xxx

  3. Hi,
    My boyfriend of 2yrs passed away unexpectedly of a massive heart attack on July 7 2017. Like usual I had spoken to him all day July 6, 2017 which he sounded happy and perfectly fine and we had made plans earlier to see each other on July 7th. (We had a long distant relationship due to work) after making plans he was so happy and excited and he talked about our future together throughout the day. The last time that we communicated that day on july 6th was at 10:10 pm we had exchanged pictures via text which soon after that he passes away at midnight. Never did i think that would be our last day speaking or texting each other. On July 7, 2017 I called and called and no answer texted and no answer I did that allllll weekend long. I didnt find out until July 11, 2017 at 1:45am that l called his workplace and one of his coworkers told me the devastating and heart breaking news that he had passed away from a massive heart attack on July 7th at midnight. Burial was on July 13, 2017 which couldn’t get myself to attend due finding out that he had not being honest with me theses 2yrs. However, I needed to have some type of closure and decided to go to the cementry. Never in a million years did I think I would be looking for him in a cementry to say my last goodbye. I have been completely heartbroken, confused, hurt and empty since then and everyday I have looked and prayed for some type of closure or sign from him and nothing. I don’t even see him in my dreams either. Why? Does he know that I know he’s gone? I didn’t even get a chance to say goodbye or tell him how much I loved him.
    Please help me

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