“Dead” Isn’t a Four-Letter Word

Our loved ones in spirit already perfectly know our hearts, and thus there is no need to ever mince words.

Recently, my new book Soul Smart has received some criticism from a few readers who take offense at my use of the words “dead” and “death” throughout the book.

The vast majority of readers say they enjoyed the book and in fact, they had great results using its methods to connect. But there are detractors because of the use of the words “dead” and “death”. One woman referred to me saying that I “surely must be a vile person”. Another counted how many times the word “dead” was used in my book, as though penalties were about to be assessed. I empathize with all my heart. Those who are deeply grieving will indeed likely have difficulty using the word “dead” and I deeply respect the word choices of the individuals. I’m all about compassion! I have, by now, worked with a thousand or more grieving people. Often volunteering, I have given freely of my time and resources to the grieving, even when I had little for myself.

Frankly, I would have used the softer “loved ones in spirit” more often were it strictly up to me.

But my spiritual team of guides, angels, and loved ones insisted that I not shy away from the words “dead” and “death.” I asked why. Here goes! The more we can bring ourselves to say “dead” and “death”, the more we bear witness that death is nothing to be fearful or ashamed about. We can continue to live in the presence of our loved ones, not as scary ghosts but as our beloved family members who no longer have their physical bodies.

There actually is death; that is the reality. However, only the physicality of a person dies. Fortunately, as it turns out, the body is the least important part of us after we are returned to Heavenly home!

Words have power because of the emotions that our words carry. And we can choose the emotion with the words we say. The spirit world asserts that the more we fear and refuse to speak of death, the less we can accomplish on Earth. Fear and shame limit the progress of our souls’ growth.

My spiritual team insisted that I do my part, however small, to help eradicate our Earthly shame, fear, and dread over death and dying. If we say the words more, my team asserts, fear will morph into peace that surpasses all understanding. The truth is this: only our physical bodies will ever experience death. We exist forever!

This is not to make light of grief, but to bring The Light to heal our grief.

We can BEGIN to heal our dread and shame around death and dying, and now live fully, fearlessly, and joyfully while we are still here on Earth.

Don’t shoot the messenger!

Susanne Wilson is an evidential medium, spiritual teacher, and author of Soul Smart: What The Dead Teach Us About Spirit Communication. Susanne is known as the Carefree Medium. She is based in Carefree, Arizona near Phoenix and Scottsdale.

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