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“Dead” Isn’t a Four-Letter Word

Our loved ones in spirit already perfectly know our hearts, and thus there is no need to ever mince words.

Recently, my new book Soul Smart has received some criticism from a few readers who take offense at my use of the words “dead” and “death” throughout the book.

The vast majority of readers say they enjoyed the book and in fact, they had great results using its methods to connect. But there are detractors because of the use of the words “dead” and “death”. One woman referred to me saying that I “surely must be a vile person”. Another counted how many times the word “dead” was used in my book, and as though penalties were about to be assessed. I empathize with all my heart. Those who are deeply grieving will indeed likely have difficulty using the word “dead” and I respect the choices of the individuals. I’m all about compassion! My team and I have, by now, worked with a thousand or more grieving people. Often volunteering, I have given freely of my time and resources to the grieving, even when I had little for myself.

Frankly, I would have used the softer “loved ones in spirit” more often were it strictly up to me.

But my spiritual team of guides, angels, and loved ones insisted that I not shy away from the words “dead” and “death.” I asked why. Here goes! The more we can bring ourselves to say “dead” and “death”, the more we bear witness that death is nothing to be fearful or ashamed about. We can continue to live in the presence of our loved ones, not as scary ghosts but as our beloved family members who no longer have their physical bodies.

There actually is death; that is the reality. However, only the physicality of a person dies. Fortunately, as it turns out, the body is the least important part of us after we are returned to Heavenly home!

Words have power because of the emotions that our words carry. And we can choose the emotion with the words we say. The spirit world asserts that the more we fear and refuse to speak of death, the less we can accomplish on Earth. Fear and shame limit the progress of our souls’ growth.

My spiritual team insisted that I do my part, however small, to help erradicate our Earthly shame, fear, and dread over death and dying. If we say the words more, my team asserts, fear will morph into peace that surpasses all understanding. The truth is this: only our physical bodies will ever experience death. We exist forever!

This is not to make light of grief, but to bring The Light to heal our grief.

 

We can BEGIN to heal our dread and shame around death and dying, and now live fully, fearlessly, and joyfully while we are still here on Earth.

Don’t shoot the messenger!

Susanne Wilson is an evidential medium, spiritual teacher, and author of Soul Smart: What The Dead Teach Us About Spirit Communication. Susanne is known as the Carefree Medium. She is based in Carefree, Arizona near Phoenix and Scottsdale.

Hiking In Heaven: 2 Young Men (In Spirit) Arrange for Their Living Moms To Meet

~Reprinted from the December 2016 newsletter of Helping Parents Heal~


Susanne Wilson, Morgan Boisson, and Brian Ruff 

“Our Helping Parents Heal affiliate group here in Phoenix Scottsdale has the great pleasure of hosting Susanne Wilson, the Carefree Medium, at our next group meeting on December 18th at Unity of Phoenix from 1-3 pm.” 

“Susanne has been a huge support to Helping Parents Heal and she will be bringing through validations from our children at the meeting.  We always have a full house and her last meeting drew over 100 parents, so please be sure to RSVP and get to the meeting early to reserve a seat.   If you are in the area, please don’t miss this wonderful meeting!”

 – Elizabeth Boisson, President, Helping Parents Heal


HIKING IN HEAVEN

Excerpt from “Soul Smart: The Dead Teach About Spirit Communication” by Susanne Wilson. In this excerpt, two young men (in spirit) arrange for their mothers (in physical) to meet. The two young men then provide stunning evidence of their after-death friendship through two different mediums.
 
 
Communication between the living and loved ones in spirit is natural. But it is not easy! In fact, after-death communication is so challenging that both the living and the dead must learn and practice their communication techniques.

In the spirit world, whenever a child is connecting with his living family, other children cheer him on! New friendships are formed among the children, although they never met while they were alive. 
 
Often, children (in spirit) will arrange to have their living parents meet! It makes the children happy to see their parents become friends who support each other.

Seven years ago, a delightful young man (in spirit) unexpectedly entered my life. Ultimately, he inspired his mother to co-found Helping Parents Heal with Mark Ireland. If you have not heard the amazing story of how I met Morgan and his mother, Elizabeth Boisson, then I invite you to watch the video of Elizabeth at the following link

And it just gets better!
 
A few days after I met with Elizabeth, I conducted a phone reading for a lovely woman on the East Coast named Jody. 

Jody’s son, Brian, was an accomplished athlete and a beloved son, brother, and friend. Before his death, Brian and his friends had planned a road trip. But Brian had a dream in which he “saw” a car accident during the road trip. He warned his friends and asked them to cancel the trip. They went anyway, without Brian who refused to go. Tragically, all four young men perished in a car accident on the road trip. 

Later on, Brian ended his life while sitting in his cherished sports car, a Mustang. His family and friends were devastated.

Now Brian’s mother, Jody, was having a reading with me. 
 
Prior to Jody’s reading, the only information I had was her first name. I quickly picked up from spirit that Jody was a bereaved mother. Her son, Brian, provided several evidential details including showing me his Mustang. He introduced his friends, the young men who died in the car accident. Everyone was happy and doing well!


 
~ENTER MORGAN BOISSON~



Unexpectedly, I began picking up on another young man who was not in the car accident. Standing next to Brian, I spotted Morgan Boisson! 
 
I told Jody that a young man named “Morgan Boisson” was standing next to her son, Brian. Jody was perplexed. She had no clue who Morgan was. (Bear in mind that Helping Parents Heal did not yet exist.)

As the reading continued, I noticed that Morgan seemed to be coaching Brian on communicating with me. Brian was quick to learn. The two young men seemed to enjoy working together.  
 
The two young men motioned for me to look down at their feet. They were both wearing boots. I heard Brian say that he died with his boots on (which his mother then confirmed). hiking

Then the two young men motioned for me to look at the scenery. They were standing on a hiking path, high atop a mountainside filled with wildflowers.

Brian grinned from ear to ear and said, “Tell my mom we’re hiking in heaven.” 

At the end of Jody’s reading, we spoke about the likelihood of Morgan and Brian meeting while they were alive. The probability seemed to be zero. 

After Jody’s reading, I contacted Elizabeth and told her how Morgan had helped Brian with the reading. Then, Elizabeth and Jody spoke on the phone. They thought it was great that their sons met (after death). The words “hiking in heaven” were significant to Elizabeth because she had been hiking every day since Morgan passed and had felt her son’s presence each time she went.  However, the fact that Morgan and Brian were hiking together really didn’t mean too much to either mom. But that was about to change!

~MORGAN AND BRIAN CONNECT WITH MEDIUM TINA POWERS~ 


A few days after I conducted Jody’s phone reading (in which her son Brian was with Morgan) Elizabeth went to get a reading in Tucson with medium Tina Powers. 
 
Prior to Elizabeth’s reading with Tina Powers, one of Elizabeth’s daughters had met with Tina. Here I would like to note that although Tina knew some limited information about Morgan’s death, TINA KNEW NOTHING ABOUT BRIAN OR HIS CONNECTION WITH MORGAN. 

Now Morgan’s mother, Elizabeth, was having a reading with Tina in Tucson. Tina observed that there was another young man with Morgan. Tina saw a horse-a Mustang.  At first, Elizabeth didn’t understand but then she remembered that Brian transitioned in his car, which was also a Mustang.  Then Tina mentioned the song ‘Amazing Grace’ and Elizabeth understood the connection; Brian had passed in his beloved Ford Mustang. 
 
What Tina said next was astonishing. “They’re hiking in heaven.” 
 
We mediums never know which details will have the most significance to our clients. Thus, good evidential mediums give everything we receive, carefully, without putting our own spin on it. 
 
Tina Powers and I — completely independently from each other — had simply repeated the words Brian and Morgan provided, thereby providing evidence:
 
1. The two young men became friends after death;
2. They arranged for their mothers to meet;
3. They are thoroughly enjoying life after death.
 
Nearly seven years later, Elizabeth and Jody continue to keep in touch…Thanks to their amazing sons!



-Susanne Wilson, The Carefree Medium


 

“Knowing” That A Child Will Have An Early Transition

Prior to the death of a child, some parents have experienced a phenomenon known as claircognizance (clear knowing). This means that one or both parents had a strong feeling that the child would die, even though there was no logical reason present to fear the child’s death.

compassionTo be clear, the experience of claircognizance about a child’s impending death goes far beyond the typical worrying of a parent for the child. Some parents describe the “knowing” as a realization that comes to them “like being struck by lightning” or “punched in the stomach.”

These are seemingly normal parents, most of whom report that they never experienced anything of a psychic nature previously.

Claircognizance about the death of a child may happen to the parent only once, shortly before the child’s unexpected death (and often within 24 hours prior). In other cases, claircognizance of the death of a child occurs several times, over the course of months or years.

compassion-500x333pxRecently, I did a medium reading for a mom whose eight-year-old son had died from a head injury he sustained while at school. The young boy said in the reading, “Mommy, remember I told you that I wouldn’t always be with you.” 

The boy’s mother responded, “That’s right! He was about 4 years old when he said that to me…Also, I had a sick feeling that morning that I could lose my son.” 

This parent, like many, asked me whether she was supposed to prevent her son’s death. Was that the reason she felt that her son was going to die?

Was the boy’s mother supposed to save him? She needed answers from me.

I explained claircognizance and why it happens. The experience of “knowing” is NOT intended to make the parent responsible to prevent the child’s death. The experience of “knowing” is an acknowledgement (on a soul level) that the child’s death is going to occur, and it’s part of a plan. Claircognizance doesn’t come with an exact time, date, or means of the impending death, because there is no prevention possible.

The parent who experienced the “knowing” of the impending death was being prepared (again, on a soul level) for the inevitable death of the child. 

The death of one’s child is the toughest and most raw life experience a human being can have. Yet we are told, in over 200 years of afterlife research, that there are reasons why this suffering is needed (although we won’t fully understand those reasons until after we return to heavenly home). The bottom line seems to be that each soul born on Earth arrives with a plan outlining the broad strokes of his or her life. Grief is a part of the plan, and in its wake, great spiritual growth is possible. Earth is where we come to have experiences that allow us to grow spiritually.