Thanatopsis: A View of Death by Chris Foote, Guest Blogger

I’m a funeral director in New Zealand working with families once death has occurred; I began the natural funeral company 16 years ago responding to deep urges in myself and with a desire to be alongside people and death in an organic and natural way. I have developed a non-embalming style of body-care and have held families in their grief in the first few days after death.

Here’s what I have learned.

lantern heartI believe the essence of a person cannot be fully felt until someone dies.

We then go into an altered state and realize their value and worth and the meaning of their life for us.

Several things unfold at these times that are worth paying attention to. I believe these provide meaningful insights into our spiritual lives.

Firstly, sadness and tears are a beautiful expression of love when someone we value has left our lives. This sadness can help us articulate our love in the first few days after death and can in turn be expressed as part of saying farewell. If you can catch the whispers of thoughts and feelings you can them formulate exactly what someone means to you.

While it is not necessary to have an elaborate funeral, I believe it is important to mark the ending of someone’s life with some form of farewell. To say thank you for your life, and all you have meant to us, is an important ritual of love and respect.

I believe one of our tasks is to discover what it is we believe happens at death and to allow this process to teach us. Experiencing a death can give us a glimpse through the door as we visit what it means to die.

sun haloIt has been my discovery that most people believe they will see the people they love again and that the ones they love will be together after death. People say this, even when they do not have a view of what may happen when we die.

It is a common belief in a number of cultures that we should allow three days for the processes of dying and separation to take place. It is a very special time when our everyday awareness alters.

It is a time when we can be visited by unusual experiences, synchronistic and symbolic events. It is important not to brush over these when you notice them and not be afraid to express them as many people have similar experiences.

The more comfortable we can be around death the more we can lighten the sense of morbidity.  It is OK to be uplifted and develop a confident presence around death.

hummingbirdGrief is not the easiest emotion to be comfortable with as there are many components to work through, including change, guilt, and loss. People in grief need our attention on relationship; it would be helpful for us to be comfortable with difficult emotions, and to allow others to be themselves – with both their strengths and weaknesses. Our attention is a gift to those experiencing a loss.

I know we can suffer from what to say and how to say it and how to help. But your presence can be the most helpful gift of all. There is no need to cover the feelings of loss or become solution based. Allow the other person to express their experience and tell their story.

Generally, as children and young adults, we have not been taught about the life-death-life cycle of our lives. That not only people die but relationships die, situations change, nature changes.

Chris Foote

What’s the hurry to get over someone anyway??
Carry them beside you in your waking day and sleeping night.
Use all those memories to access the love, the fun, and the times spent together.

You can reach Chris Foote at The Natural Funeral Company in New Zealand. Ph: (09) 361 6080

“Knowing” That A Child Will Have An Early Transition

Prior to the death of a child, some parents have experienced a phenomenon known as claircognizance (clear knowing). This means that one or both parents had a strong feeling that the child would die, even though there was no logical reason present to fear the child’s death.

compassionTo be clear, the experience of claircognizance about a child’s impending death goes far beyond the typical worrying of a parent for the child. Some parents describe the “knowing” as a realization that comes to them “like being struck by lightning” or “punched in the stomach.”

These are seemingly normal parents, most of whom report that they never experienced anything of a psychic nature previously.

Claircognizance about the death of a child may happen to the parent only once, shortly before the child’s unexpected death (and often within 24 hours prior). In other cases, claircognizance of the death of a child occurs several times, over the course of months or years.

compassion-500x333pxRecently, I did a medium reading for a mom whose eight-year-old son had died from a head injury he sustained while at school. The young boy said in the reading, “Mommy, remember I told you that I wouldn’t always be with you.” 

The boy’s mother responded, “That’s right! He was about 4 years old when he said that to me…Also, I had a sick feeling that morning that I could lose my son.” 

This parent, like many, asked me whether she was supposed to prevent her son’s death. Was that the reason she felt that her son was going to die?

Was the boy’s mother supposed to save him? She needed answers from me.

I explained claircognizance and why it happens. The experience of “knowing” is NOT intended to make the parent responsible to prevent the child’s death. The experience of “knowing” is an acknowledgement (on a soul level) that the child’s death is going to occur, and it’s part of a plan. Claircognizance doesn’t come with an exact time, date, or means of the impending death, because there is no prevention possible.

The parent who experienced the “knowing” of the impending death was being prepared (again, on a soul level) for the inevitable death of the child. 

The death of one’s child is the toughest and most raw life experience a human being can have. Yet we are told, in over 200 years of afterlife research, that there are reasons why this suffering is needed (although we won’t fully understand those reasons until after we return to heavenly home). The bottom line seems to be that each soul born on Earth arrives with a plan outlining the broad strokes of his or her life. Grief is a part of the plan, and in its wake, great spiritual growth is possible. Earth is where we come to have experiences that allow us to grow spiritually.

Quick Way Anyone Can Learn To Meditate

“I can’t meditate. My mind is too busy!” said my client. “I’ll bet you meditate for hours every day, Susanne, right?” My client was very surprised to hear my answer…

I only spend 10 minutes a day meditating.

The benefits of meditation include more inner peace, and improvements in mental, emotional, and physical health.Meditate


#1. Set the alarm on your phone to ring in 5 minutes. Sit in a chair with your spine straight (or with your legs folded in half-lotus position).

#2. Close your eyes and breathe normally, making sure you exhale each breath completely. Don’t hold your breath.

Rose3. Focus on 1 beautiful object (like a rose or sunflower), plus 1 beautiful word (like peace or love).

Whenever a thought enters your mind (which happens to me, too) simply observe the thought. Don’t engage the thought, and don’t try to push the thought away. Let the thought float by, like a fluffy cloud.

#5. When your alarm rings, end your meditation with an “I AM” statement. For example, “I AM HEALTHY AND HAPPY,” or “I AM GRATEFUL FOR MY LIFE.”

Start with 5 minutes of meditation each day for one week. Add 1 additional minute per week until you reach 10 minutes. Enjoy!


The Fun Of Hanging Out With Roberta Grimes

Grimes and WilsonWhen a medium and an afterlife researcher hang out together, the dead community is there!

Such was the case when I traveled with Roberta Grimes during a California speaking tour.

Roberta Grimes is the author of several books I recommend including Liberating Jesus, The Fun of Dying, The Fun of Staying In Touch, and coming soon, The Fun of Growing Forever.

Roberta and I were dining in a San Francisco restaurant, enjoying a spectacular view of Alcatraz Island and the San Francisco Bay. Roberta had just given me big news regarding how wonderfully well Liberating Jesus was being received around the world.

I proposed a toast to celebrate “spirit’s success.” Roberta lifted her glass for the toast. And suddenly, Roberta’s spirit guide, Thomas, appeared at our table seated next to Roberta, and Thomas raised his glass too!

Thomas was the spirit guide who advised Roberta that she must write the book about how 200 years of afterlife research aligns with the Gospels.

Although Thomas had a past lifetime as Thomas Jefferson (the former U.S. president), today he is focused only on activity designed to raise the consciousness of humankind.

Thomas himself wrote a book similar to Liberating Jesus (when he was Jefferson). However, his book was not published in Jefferson’s day, and the manuscript has been lost. He told us the world was not ready for the book then, as it is today! Now that is worth raising one’s glass for a toast!

Tj WoodwardWe also visited with author/inspirational speaker, TJ Woodward in San Francisco. TJ is the author of the book, Conscious Being.

Roberta and I each filmed an episode of TJ Woodward’s spirituality program.

You are invited to watch TJ Woodward’s spirituality TV show online now:  Awakened Living.

Liberating Jesus: Exclusive Story Behind the Book

Liberating Jesus by Roberta Grimes

Liberating Jesus

Attorney and author Roberta Grimes has liberated the teachings of Jesus from religious dogma.

Since this book was published in October 2015, Liberating Jesus has become an international bestseller. This book shows how the gospels line up with what we know about the Afterlife evidence and more.

“The whole medieval notion of a King on a glorious throne who is apparently meant to be Jesus, and having all the nations bowing before Him and separating the sheep from the goats, and the whole concept of God loving some a lot and others not so much: all of that is so inconsistent with the rest of the Gospels, the afterlife evidence, and even the culture in which Jesus lived that it has to have been added later,” said Roberta.

Leslie Flint

Leslie Flint

I am the medium in Liberating Jesus. It is my honor to have been a small part of this.

It began several months ago in a reading with Roberta. Her spirit guide told Roberta that she was charged with a mission. She was asked to write a book that would correct nearly 2,000 years of misinformation about what Jesus wants humanity to accomplish.

Roberta’s spirit guide could not bring this book to fruition while he was incarnate, for many reasons, including the culture at that time. Her spirit guide’s penultimate lifetime was spent as Thomas Jefferson. Yes, that Thomas Jefferson.

Two months after Liberating Jesus was published, Wendy and Victor Zammit sent me audio recordings of seances. These were seances held by the great physical medium, Leslie Flint.  The recordings were of Thomas Jefferson. He spoke clearly through Leslie Flint, who is said to be the greatest direct-voice medium who has ever lived.

Leslie’s physical mediumship was powerful, making Thomas’ voice quite clear. I immediately recognized Leslie Flint’s Thomas as the man whom I have come to know through my mental mediumship.

Same voice. Same Southern drawl and cadence. Same humility and reluctance to focus on himself as an important historical figure. (Thomas prefers to focus on the greater spiritual work.)

As an aside and with his permission, I can tell you that Thomas Jefferson was never sexually involved with Sally Hemings. Because Thomas is a gentleman to a fault, he will not divulge the identity of the man in question.

Who should read Liberating Jesus? Everyone! No church experience or bible knowledge is required. This is for truth seekers.

Jesus teaches that there is no judgment and we are loved more than we can possibly imagine. Read a free sample of the book: Free Sample Chapter, Liberating Jesus

The Truth About Phone Readings

I care about mediumship and the people who engage mediums in this work. It’s in the spirit of caring that I offer this advice.

Here is the plain truth about phone readings with mediums.

Many clients believe their reading will be better if they have it in person. They think having the reading face to face will make a big difference.

It does make a difference to have your reading in person instead of by phone.  But it is a negative difference, not a positive one.

Many of those same clients who think a reading in person will be better also make a second error. They bring the medium personal items related to the dead. They believe that objects of the dead (such as pictures, jewelry, cremains, etc) are necessary for the medium to connect. Wrong!

I’m here to tell you why a phone reading is a smarter investment than a reading in person. And why you should not bring the medium personal items related to the dead.

Anytime you get a reading from a medium, you would be well advised to do it by phone. That way you’ll know the medium isn’t taking cues from your facial expressions and your body language. Listen, I don’t even look at my clients while I’m doing their readings.

All I need is your first name and to hear your voice. I don’t need to see you. I don’t need to hold onto your hands. I’m connecting directly with your spiritual team:  Your guides, your angels, and your beloved dead people and pets.

Some people think their reading will be better if they bring items that belonged to the dead person. Such as photos or jewelry. They’ll even bring the dead loved one’s urn with cremains.

Of course I am very respectful of personal items especially ashes. I don’t want them brought to my office and I’ll tell you why.

If you show me the dead person’s pictures, jewelry, or cremains, you are giving me too much information.

Why feed the medium? Not only do the dead person’s items provide leading information to the medium, they can be very distracting to the medium and you.

Now, I do know that there can be special circumstances when a medium needs items belonging to the dead, such as homicide investigation. But please wait until you’re asked to bring something.  Otherwise, you could deter the medium from bringing through information that doesn’t seem to fit with the item  you’ve presented. When in doubt, ask.

Here’s an example that left me speechless.

One time a woman brought a giant stuffed teddy bear to her reading with me.  The teddy bear, at least 4 feet tall, made me feel like I needed to try to connect with a child. In fact, my client sat down and held tightly to the teddy bear as though it were her child. She sobbed into it, rocking back and forth like a broken-hearted mom.

I felt pressured throughout the reading to connect with this woman’s child. The young soul who owned the giant teddy bear.

Throughout the reading, I kept asking spirit (silently in my mind) “Is there a child trying to come through?

In my heart I was terrified, mortified that the client would not hear from her child. (Even though I know I’m not in control of who connects from spirit, grieving parents hurt my heart. I yearn to help them.)

After the reading ended I told my client, “I am so sorry. I tried, but there wasn’t a child showing up today.”  My client looked surprised.

She said there was no dead child.

My client explained that the teddy bear was a gift from her husband, now dead. She thought it would help me connect with him. Well, I certainly did connect with her dead husband and several additional loved ones. But that was in spite of the teddy bear, not because of it.

The client loved her reading. I was incredibly drained. I nursed a headache for the remainder of the day.

I made a mistake.  The misunderstanding would never have happened if the client didn’t bring a leading item to her reading. Or if we had met by phone.

On numerous occasions, clients have brought their dead loved ones’ cremains to my office, thinking the presence of ashes would provide them with a better mediumship reading.

But sitting with their loved ones’ urns made clients so upset they could barely focus on the reading.

They weren’t listening to all the many wonderful validations. The reading was lost on them.

Readings are by nature emotionally charged. And the cremains amped up the grief even higher.

Mediums connect directly with the dead, not through their belongings, pictures, or ashes.

Under special circumstances, such as investigations for example, the medium might request a personal item in order to read the item’s energy.

But a medium can connect directly with the dead person, without your providing any pictures or belongings. When in doubt, ask.

Readings by phone or office are going to be exactly the same with a medium. About 70% of my readings are done by phone, and I meet by phone with clients located throughout the world.

Now that you know that you don’t have to travel for a great reading, you can choose from many mediums worldwide.  Look for one who comes highly recommended from reviews submitted to third party sites such as Bob Olson’s website,

Put on your pajamas, relax, and have your reading from the comfort of your home. By phone!

Susanne Wilson, The Carefree Medium
Tel #1.480.203.2336



Susanne Wilson is a world renowned medium, author, and spiritual teacher located in Carefree near Phoenix and Scottsdale, Arizona.
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Dreading the Holidays? Read This

Every year, I hear from several clients who dread the holidays. They had a bad year. They failed to reach an important goal. Or they are grieving for a much-loved person or pet.

There’s good news! Our people and pets are enjoying their lives in the heavenly dimensions. They want us to enjoy life too! And they never miss an opportunity to show up for our birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays. Imagine how sad they will feel if we don’t celebrate. Life, wherever you are living it, is meant to be savored.

One day when you arrive in the afterlife, you’ll realize that you accomplished a lot! You will be welcomed home with a party! Sometimes they have a parade. Not because you were famous or filthy rich. But because you mostly did your best! Acts of compassion for yourself and others will be highly celebrated accomplishments.

We are all perfectly loved and that is worth celebrating.

Roberta Grimes Interviews Susanne Wilson, The Carefree Medium

Roberta Grimes

Roberta Grimes

I chuckle whenever I hear a medium on television say “I talk to the dead.” I’m assuming they mean“The dead talk to me.”

That the dead can get messages through to mediums is quite fascinating. But how does all this actually work? I recently had the opportunity to explain in more detail.

I was honored when one of my favorite afterlife researchers and authors, Roberta Grimes, invited me on her show.

Roberta Grimes studied nearly 200 years of abundant and consistent communications from the dead to give us a better understanding of the “glorious eternal lives that await us all.” She is the author of several books including The Fun of Dying and The Fun of Staying in Touch.

Roberta said that I am only the second medium she has ever consulted, during 20 years of research, who has been successful in reaching her family. In addition, I was honored to introduce Roberta to her main spirit guide, with whom she has developed a rapport.

Don’t miss this interview.

For the first time publicly, I will share details about how the dead “talk” to me. You’ll also hear things you may never have known about spirit guides. Did you know that you have your own spiritual team?

LISTEN NOW! Seek Reality with Roberta Grimes and Guest, Susanne Wilson, the Carefree Medium

13 Tips for Healing Your Energy

#1. Say out loud every day: “I declare that I am healthy in body, mind and spirit.”

You create your present and future through your thoughts, words and actions. Starting with your thoughts.

#2. Talk to the Creator. Then listen.

Prayer is talking to God. Meditation is listening to God inside you. Your inner GPS.

#3. Be a WARRIOR not a worrier.

Expect the best but prepare for the worst with no obsessing on what-if. Trust that your antagonists are your teachers. You stand to learn the most about yourself from dealing with personalities and situations that challenge you.

#4. When it comes to your time and energy, give until it feels good, not until it hurts.

Good acts will come back to you in time. But if you feel taken advantage of, figure out why you feel that way and how you will do it differently next time.

#5. Unclutter. Everywhere.

Home clutter: Get rid of stuff you no longer need. Have a garage sale or donate it to charity.
Head clutter: Limit your news intake to 20 minutes a day. Don’t watch TV programs that bring you down, shows about serial killers, autopsies and demons. Switch to Super Soul Sunday with Oprah. Always fill your gas tank before it’s half empty, and give yourself an extra 15 minutes to reach your destination.
Gut clutter: Choose water as your default beverage. Stop eating before you feel full, at least six days a week, because it takes 30 minutes after you stop eating to realize you are full. Eat what you want on the 7th day; you have earned it.

#6. Realize that nothing is permanent.

Youth, career, beauty, money, reputation, lovers and friends are transitory phenomena. Don’t become so attached to people and stuff that you neglect your inner truth. Drastic life changes need not rock your world for very long. The only thing you can count on forever is God, who is never apart from you.

#7. Stop trying to change people.

If people in your life drain your energy, make yourself as unavailable as humanly possible. If you are married to a toxic person, love yourself enough to change the situation because God knows you cannot change the person.

#8. Show up.

Focus on the person who is talking to you. Don’t think about what you are going to say next, until it is your turn to talk. Choose your words with compassion, especially when speaking to your children. If your loved one is having a hard time in life, don’t assume you know what that loved one needs. Ask them “How do you feel I can best help you?”

#9. Speak up.

Don’t tolerate abuse or neglect of a person or pet. Pay attention to what’s going on. If you see something, say something or do something. The universe has made you aware so that you can help. What you do (or don’t do) in response will become part of the tapestry of your life.

#10. Appreciate nature.

Mama Nature wants to heal you. Go sit outside. Take walks if you can. Pay attention to sounds, sights, smells, feelings and details. Not only will this relax you, it will help develop your intuitive gifts.

#11. Stay connected to the arts.

Artists bring a bit of heaven to earth. If you know how to play an instrument, paint or sing a song – Do it. You don’t have to be good at it. You will benefit from doing. Dance when the mood strikes. Take advantage of free and low-cost community venues. Visit a museum; go to a play.

#12. Cleanse the energy in your home.

Your home is your sanctuary. Clear out the spiritual dust bunnies by cleansing your home on occasion. If you don’t know how, hire a caring professional who will not only clear your home but will teach you how to do it yourself.

#13. Tell your loved ones that you love them. Often.

If you always say “I love you”, then you won’t have to doubt later whether you said it.

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Top 3 Reasons to Take Reiki Class with Susanne Wilson

# 1. You can relax and enjoy the class and soak up the wonderful energy. You will not need to take notes. I provide you with my copyrighted Reiki manual that includes the notes.

# 2. You will have hands-on practice time. Some teachers will sit and read you a Reiki manual and not give you practice time. But my classes are fun and interactive. I will ensure you have the experience of giving and receiving Reiki treatment in class.

#3. I will offer you extra insights about energy, healing and the aura from my perspective as a psychic medium and spiritual teacher. I am Reiki Master Teacher in the Usui System of Reiki with 15 years of experience.

Join one of my public classes, or ask about scheduling a private Reiki class with your friends. My next public class is Reiki Level 3 – Master Practitioner scheduled on Sunday, January 12th. For more information, please contact our office: Tel # 480.203.2336